How much do we care?
How much do we care, what others think of us? I know if you asked me if I cared what people thought of me, my automatic reply would be… I don’t really care… I do what I do… and the only person I need to answer to, ultimately is me… but is that the truth?
I’m beginning to think not… I am also finding, that, that is the case for most. I have a couple of examples I have come across that keep making me ask my self this question over and over…
Example 1- Age 20’s: A close friend of mine “friend A” made a poor decision that led her to a financial loss… her first thought…”don’t tell friend B, I don’t want her to know”.
Example 2- Age- 30’s: When a good friend of mine and his girlfriend ended things, they did not end in such good terms…and the one thought that he kept repeating was… “I don’t want to think that there is someone out there that thinks of me as a bad person”.
Example 2- Age – 40’s; I have these two pair of married friends who are in the same point in their lives. They both are settled, 2 children, 1 dog, and a nice home. One is a stay-home mother, and the other is a career oriented person. The common bond was that both their husbands worked for the same company. Sadly the stay-at home mother’s husband was laid off and they were forced to move back near their family for support. First thing out of her mouth… was… “Don’t tell “career oriented mom”, I don’t want them to know”. The career oriented mom’s husband was also laid off about a year or so later, her thought was the same… “don’t tell stay at home mom… I would rather she not know”.
So tell me… why do we care? It seizes to amaze me how no matter how old you are, you will always wonder what people think of you. Why is that?
I’m beginning to think not… I am also finding, that, that is the case for most. I have a couple of examples I have come across that keep making me ask my self this question over and over…
Example 1- Age 20’s: A close friend of mine “friend A” made a poor decision that led her to a financial loss… her first thought…”don’t tell friend B, I don’t want her to know”.
Example 2- Age- 30’s: When a good friend of mine and his girlfriend ended things, they did not end in such good terms…and the one thought that he kept repeating was… “I don’t want to think that there is someone out there that thinks of me as a bad person”.
Example 2- Age – 40’s; I have these two pair of married friends who are in the same point in their lives. They both are settled, 2 children, 1 dog, and a nice home. One is a stay-home mother, and the other is a career oriented person. The common bond was that both their husbands worked for the same company. Sadly the stay-at home mother’s husband was laid off and they were forced to move back near their family for support. First thing out of her mouth… was… “Don’t tell “career oriented mom”, I don’t want them to know”. The career oriented mom’s husband was also laid off about a year or so later, her thought was the same… “don’t tell stay at home mom… I would rather she not know”.
So tell me… why do we care? It seizes to amaze me how no matter how old you are, you will always wonder what people think of you. Why is that?
posted by Broo at 3:36 PM
5 Comments:
you're getting very good at this!
11:10 AM
What can I say... I learned from the best! ;)
6:53 PM
thanks for your comment brooster! take...care=)
9:13 PM
Interesting post...I guess it's b/c what people think of us--although it may only scratch the surface--is an aspect of ourself. We always want to show the good side, even if it's things we can't really control (like getting laid off).
My point is: Unfortunatly, a good reputation (even if it's merely superficial) gets us further in this world.
11:29 PM
By the way, thanks for the encouragement. Not even sure how you found my blog, but it was nice. Hope the best for you.
11:30 PM
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